I can usually handle myself in situations like that but these were delicate matters, family was involved and I didn’t have all the answers. I also didn’t want to have the appearance as someone who could thrash them with scriptures. They just seemed so shocked and genuinely hurt with my change of core beliefs. They even asked about my finances in regards to my giving during this discussion.
I pretty much summed it up by saying to him that after examining things for many years, I just can’t blindly give to men I don’t know, respect, align with or understand. I can’t just go, “Well, God just told me to give to the work so here you go”. I’m against that mindset. It’s foolishness to me. It lines up more with the OT philosophies of physical blessings because of offerings. We don’t give to receive any blessings! We give today selflessly, to recieve nothing in return.
Now, months later, in retrospect, I guess I would say to them, “I just view the church drastically different than you. I don’t buy in to the nonsense in it.” It's formulas and modern day programs, gimmicks and contemporary styles. It’s not about being disillusioned either! It’s about waking up to the blatant reproaches! Many fail to acknowledge or examine the symptoms of these reproaches because of the work of the ministry.
It is so much more than the giving principles and following commissions! How long can we listen to pragmatic teachings and traditions over and over and over? I see so much of “the machine” in our doings, in all of it now that I fear that the best of the independent local churches are now average traditionalist churches, whether they realize it or not! Just an observation. Just an onlooker.












